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Hi! My name is Kelly Swift and I am the owner of Break Free Divorce Coaching.  Not only am I a coach, but I have also been in the same spot as many of you.  I met my ex-husband when I was a teenager.  I immediately fell head over heels in love with his charisma and attentiveness.  Little did I know that the attentiveness that he provided to me would turn into controlling behaviors and physical, emotional, and psychological abuse.  We were together for 21 years, married for 14 years, and had two beautiful children together before I realized the extent of my situation.  I never thought of myself as being abused, but as I mentally and physically became stronger and more confident (through the help of therapy and surrounding myself with a good community of friends), it became apparent to me that I was being abused and that I needed to leave my relationship. I needed to leave not only for myself, but to be an example for my children.

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When I asked for a divorce the abuse didn't stop, it actually escalated.  The psychological abuse not only got worse for me, but my children were also being manipulated.  My ex-husband lied to them and lied to the court.  He took them out of their beds while they were sleeping and refused to let me see them unless he deemed the time to be appropriate.  After multiple court filings and beginning a best interest evaluation to determine the custody of the children, we came to an agreement and we were able to finalize our divorce.  The emotional and psychological abuse still hasn't stopped, but my children and I now have the proper tools in place to mitigate any damage that he may attempt. 

Not long after my divorce process started, I had several friends that started having similar issues and started reaching out for advice.  It was at this time that I saw Tina Swithin was offering a course to become a High Conflict Divorce Coach and that is when I knew that I needed to use all the knowledge I gained to help other people that were in my same position.  The knowledge that I gained through the course, as well as my professional experience as a Project Manager, provides me with the skill set necessary to provide strategies to my clients to help them through one of the toughest experiences of their lives.